The Truth About Why Becoming a Working Mom is so Hard

The Truth About Why Becoming a Working Mom is so HardThe Truth About Why Becoming a Working Mom is so HardBecoming a Working Mom and living this lifestyle is a challenge.Heres why Before Working Motherhood You Were Different If you suffered from the disease to please before motherhood it didnt affect you so much (unless you had a severe case of it).The reason why is because before motherhood you had more energy and time to give, plus you were younger. You may have thought it felt good to please others.You thought that yur extra efforts were appreciated and valued.You may have felt like you were caring for others.In the end you felt motherly.Its hard to resist this urge because its in most of our DNA systems. Then You Became a Mother... But then something changes.You truly become a mother.You change.You dont want to continue taking care of everyone because your new priority is taking care of your family. The problem with this is that people are bedrngnis fond of change.Althoug h you are now a working mom people know you as the old you who helped out, was their go-to person, the dependable one.But youve changed.How do you transition or even begin to explain your new outlook on life? The Answer in One Simple Truth I dont have the complete answer except for one simple statementThis challenge is unique for each working mom. Each of us has a different career with different co-workers, managers, and corporate cultures to contend or abide by.Each of your children is unique with their unique needs.Your support system, hopefully including a significant other but maybe not, is different.Your home is different with different demands you feel you need to fulfill. And most importantly YOU are beautifully unique.How you handle what life throws at you is unique.This misperceived weakness is a HUGE strength for you to audaciously capitalize on.YOU do not have to act like everyone else in the company or the other moms you see at daycare because you are unique. The qui cker you realize that this statement is your truth, that you are unique, the quicker you can find the answer to this transition challenge.The quicker youll be able to express this change of heart, and mind, to others so that you do not feel torn in a million directions. Express Your Unique Explanation of Whats Happened to You to Others What do I mean by others?Everyone at work, everyone in your family, and even your children. If you have an infant, sure they arent going to understand, but you understand how you feel toward your child.If you dont then its time to get extremely clear about it, yes you love your child, but theres more isnt there?For instance, when mommy guilt surfaces this is an opportunity for you to dive into your uniqueness, your values and priorities (your VPs). You can exercise your emotional intelligence by becoming aware of what you are truly feeling, why that is, and then manage it.This takes energy, time, and practice, just like the many other adjustments youll need to make as a working mom. You were once a different person.Think about what you were like.Then realize that youve changed.You know why youve change but how do you express this in words?Since we are all unique only you can come up with the right answer.An answer that feels so good to you that you want to be sure that everyone knows it.Because you are proud to have become a Working Mom.

Todays managers blew it with Millennials, professor says

Todays managers blew it with Millennials, professor saysTodays managers blew it with Millennials, professor saysWe blew it with the Millennials.They were confident, bold, very educated, and startlingly different from any generation we had seen before. But when they entered our classrooms and our boardrooms ready to contribute with a new perspective on how things could be done, we had to make a choice to welcome them as partners in navigating our changing world or resist them, viewing them as a threat to the way things had always been. We most definitely chose the latter. We took them to task - interpreting their boldness as narcissism and their proactive approaches as an entitlement. We spent years developing the potential of our Millennials, and now we are squandering it.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreMore than a decade ago, 60 Minutes introduced Millennials to the world with a nachrichtensendung segment positioning them as a plague we must survive. This negative framing has endured despite evidence that Millennials tend to have shared values with previous generations and have an even greater interest in social responsibility. Research shows Millennials desiremeaningful workand are committed to learning and development, but weve instead created a narrative thattheyre entitled, self-centered, and lazy. Weve blamed them for everything fromkilling American cheeseto thedisappearance of bar soap.While the term Millennials has become a catchall for young people, its no longer an accurate label. The oldest Millennials will be turning 38 years old in 2019, meaning many of them are approaching middle age and obtaining positions in middle management. The youngest Millennials are 22 years old and graduated from college last spring. That means your youngest employees most likely belong to an entirely new generation - Generation Z.Lets do better with this next gene ration, shall we?Speculation abounds about Gen Z Will growing up in the shadow of the recession make them financially conservative? Will the novelty of career hopping be lost on them, prompting a return to careers with more longevity, or will they continue to embrace the gig economy and radically reshape what it actually means to have a career at all? None of this is certain, but one thing is We cannot treat them as adversaries like we did with Millennials.Why? Quite simply, we cannot afford the continued loss of human potential. The rate of change in every industry in our business world is unprecedented, and to survive, we need everyone fully invested in their work. As Einstein once said, We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. The challenges we face will not be overcome using old ways of thinking, and they will not be solved by one generation, young or old.Our contentious view of Millennials has contributed to a fundamental misunderstandin g of how to productively motivate and lead this vital part of our workforce.Only 29 % of Millennials report being engaged in their work. This low level of engagement has implications for organizational productivity, absenteeism, turnover, and commitment. In other words, our largest generation in the workplace is our most disengaged, leading to a loss in vital talent and energy.What we desperately need is a gentelligent approach to working together. Gentelligence is an organizational strategy that views the perspectives and talents of different generations as an opportunity, not a threat. This approach paves the road both for younger employees to use their unique insights to innovate and solve problems, and for older generations to work with them to provide context and guidance for how to help those ideas get needed traction within our organizations.There are a few organizations out there that have begun to crack the code on how to engage their essential Millennial employees and illu strate the power of a gentelligent approach, but not nearly enough. Fortunes list of thebest workplaces for Millennials showcases a few model examples. A Millennial employee at Kimley Horn, No. 4 on the list, said, Its amazingly powerful to know that not only does our management find value in making sure we understand why we do things the way we do, but that they value the knowledge we bring to the table.Evidence of the potential of gentelligence can be found at places such asPapa.com, where young people are seen as valuable partners and companions in a grandkids-on-demand business model, or at companies such as SoulCycle,where even the CEO has a Millennial mentor.We now have a new generation entering our workplace. This time, it will be the Millennials meeting Gen Z at the door, serving as their supervisors and showing them the ropes. This is their opportunity to lay out the welcome mat that was not given to their generation when they arrived and to do what Millennials do best show us a new way of doing things.This article first appeared on Business Insider.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

An Opportunity to Laugh at Ridiculous Career Questions

An Opportunity to Laugh at Ridiculous Career QuestionsAn Opportunity to Laugh at Ridiculous Career QuestionsAn Opportunity to Laugh at Ridiculous Career QuestionsEvery now and then, I visit the Careers Employment section of Yahoo Answers to see what people are buzzing about. Maybe Ill find a great blog post idea when Ive got a serious case of writers block? Its worked before. Since Ive been doing that, Ive noticed that most questions are expected, like wanting to know what to ask in a job interview or how to address a year of unemployment on your resume.But my most recent search turned a little wacky and funny once I got to the third page of popular questions. What did I find? This lovely gem I accidentally called a woman hideous at work. What should I do? This made me laugh out loud in my cube, and reading the explanation of the question made me laugh even more.Here are the others I found. Theyre not for the easily offended or politically correct, and youre urged to read the colorf ul answers at your own riskWhy wont my boss accept because I was too drunk to drive as a valid excuse for missing a 9AM dept. meeting?Where does one obtain a certification as a Corn Dog Consultant?How can I nap discreetly at my desk (it seems I had a big night - cant remember) without getting caught?Whats the best way to go about making koranvers imaginary procedures that no one follows are well-documented?Is it really all that bad to list a company youve never worked for on your resume?How do I account for the 2 years I spent as a day time hooker on my resume?Snickers. Happy Wednesday everyone